The Amityville slayings, November 13, 1974; Ronald DeFeo Jr. killed mother, father and 4 siblings
ngl I’m kind of disturbed by the number of posts on Tumblr that basically boil down to “don’t waste your time on anyone who won’t value you highly enough to drop everything and come comfort you when you’re sad” and like… do people not realize how freaking incorrect that is?
If it’s an emergency or you’re genuinely in crisis, yes, this is a no-brainer. And obviously it’s nice to get spoiled every once in a while with this kind of treatment. But needing your partner to drop everything when you’re sad is not only a completely unfair expectation to put on them, it’s also a really unhealthy and emotionally dependent habit to get into.
if i give you a boner please tell me so i can feel good about myself
in a healthy, close relationship of any kind, when something upsets you, you need to bring it up. as soon as possible, even. cultivate an environment in which you both can talk about things that upset you, with the utmost attention to everyone’s feelings. it’s a really simple thing to do but it’s a thing i’ve been working on for a while and i’m getting actual nice things happening as a result